Maintaining the thin line in relationships!!!!!

Not many of us are blessed with those good friends from the opposite gender, with whom we share our joys and our sorrows. But, if to read between the lines, maybe these people are not that blessed.

A general friend or a normal friend, as we categorise, will never be a threat to you unless their conscience is clear.

But what about that ‘One’ friend that you think is just your friend but turns out to be your biggest admirer or say wants to be your more than friend.

Does it more often happens with you that your ‘Friends’ proposes  you, when you were having a time of your life, where you don’t want relationships or you were interested in someone else!!!

If so, then you need to follow the steps below to avoid this sort of situation in future:

1)      Never Hangout with them ……..unless in a group

Not in your wildest of imagination you would have ever imagined that the person walking beside you is contemplating to further isolate you from your friends circle in order to spend more time with you.

Beware!!

If they say let’s hangout together, once or twice is fine, but if somehow you see the dislike on their face whenever you talk about that group or ask's you to have that “one-one” relationship, then it’s your  run away moment.

It’s better to hang out with them in group which will suppress their feelings which might grow with time.

2)      Avoid those Phone calls………………..

If they are calling you more often or every day or sometimes twice-thrice in a day, it’s time to draw a line.

You have to stop giving them this much confidence that you are available every time they call.

Receiving their call every time will only give them the over-confidence where they want to claim that they know everything about you.

Even calling every day is sign of an obsession and uncontrollable urge …...you have surely become an obsession for that person.

3)      Beware of that special Attention!!!

It’s not like that we don’t like to get pampered (Attention) but it should be from right people and at the right moment. An attention from someone you like is always welcome.

But it’s damn irritating when it comes from that one person.

That one person will start giving you more time and that ‘Out of the Box’ attention which you really don’t want.

So stop accepting those special invites or just distance yourself enough from that person so that they realise you don’t care.

It’s a give and take relationship; they will give you ample attention and will expect the same which will irritate you more.

4)      The one who’s committed…..

Don’t be surprised if your friends who are already committed starts liking you or hitting on you, as if some shameless creep.

But, somehow, such people are just distracted with your demeanour, who just wants to look for a distraction when their relationship gets choking enough for them. It’s good to give a shoulder when they are crying but never let them reach beyond your shoulder.

They find solitude in you and it becomes awkward for you.  Most of the times nobody realises the growing affection and people tend to get hurt in their own assumptions.

Somewhere it’s very much your responsibility to detest this approach and give a light jolt to the person, making them realise that you are not involved in this selfish act.

Either talk it out or give an indirect impression of what you feel.

5)      Already Drenched in the Pain…..

In case you are already in the situation where the awkwardness has already crept into your friendship, then, it is not possible to go back to the same old Friendship you once had.

What all is left, is undeniable truth that will not let you stay the way you are.

What so ever they do, you will only perceive it on the similar lines.
So, it’s better to cut-off for some time to make things normal again.

Sometimes, this cut-off is far too stretched where people lose touch forever, but, then it’s better than the good.

Crushes, liking, affection…..you name it and you will find it. It’s always nice to have that one-true-love that we all look forward to.

But, there are moments, when all you want to say is ‘No’. So, I have given you some best solutions. Please share what you have done, in the same situation.

Waiting to hear it from you!!!

By the end, I want to conclude it with a wonderful message from a very close friend of mine,

“If it’s meant to be it will happen, no matter how hard you try to maintain that friendship or relationship”.

So, don’t worry, on losing a friend or a Best Friend, there are two things that you need to keep in mind: you really don’t have to feel sorry for all the confusion and misery, because it was not your fault and secondly, it’s your friend who is getting benefited from all this, so cheer up!!