Love the smell of 'possibility'

A cup of hot coffee, newspaper and some bills (electricity, water) were lying on the table. Somebody had left them there in a hurry.

After bidding adieu to every member of the house, she started looking here and there. It seemed like as if she was searching for something very important and specific.

After a tiring and an unsuccessful search, she sat down and tried to recall, the last time she saw it.

"There it is. I have definitely lost my presence of mind".

Putting on her spectacles, she started going through all the bills and newspaper that she had placed on that table early morning. After going through everything, she left hurriedly for office.

Well, Suhana was a 35 year old writer who worked with a magazine, a wife and a mother of two. 

Usual mornings for Suhana were like waking up at 4, yoga classes(as she was a high blood pressure patient) , preparing lunch, office, dinner and looking around for any pending work. 

10 years of marriage was almost equivalent to 10 years of discipline that she had followed to create a healthy and happy lifestyle for her family.

The phone bell rang; her husband informed her that he had invited his friends for dinner. Without wasting a moment, Suhana started preparing for the dinner and could manage to prepare food in a short span of time.

She wore her yellow cotton sari with pink border, made up a bun and applied make-up. Undoubtedly, Suhana was a beauty with brains.

After a round of snacks, they all sat for the dinner. On the table, the guest praised Suhana for the delicious food and complimented her on her dressing sense. 

"Suhana, your husband is really lucky to have you."

"You should open your own restaurant, this food is amazing."

With every compliment, smiling and giggling like a child, Suhana was again and again looking at her husband for his response but her husband was busy chewing food.

"Thank you."

Though she was smiling and happy as her efforts paid off, something was still far from contentment. 

Suhana's husband offered to drop the guest to their place and she started winding up everything.

Tired and sleepy Suhana went to her room, looking one more time in the mirror at herself(a common trait in ladies).

As she was smiling while looking at herself in the mirror, she saw the reflection of a rose and a note lying under the rose in the mirror. She turned to pick them up. 

"You are as sweet as Sugar."

Gazing at the note, she smiled as a tear rolled down her cheek. 

In that very moment, she experienced a sense of accomplishment.

                                                   

    "At times we just ignore those small gestures that can make someone happy."

An Affair to remember...

Shreya and Shira were two inseparable souls since childhood. They went to the same school, same college and were working in the same company.

After 3 months of training in a reputed company, fate decided to separate them for the first time in 22 years. Though they were happy to stand on their feet, the pain of separation from each other was too much to handle for the childhood friends.

But, they still managed to stay in touch via the office communicator, during the office hours as well.

One day, Shreya pinged Shira and requested her to check her mail. Shreya told Shira, ”I have appreciated you via a newly launched platform by the company. Check your mailbox.”

Shira checked her mailbox in excitement. Though she knew, how much they love each other, this new platform had aroused large amount of curiosity in Shira.

Shira was overwhelmed by Shreya’s words and wanted to scream and hug her, but she thought of replying her via the Appreciation platform itself.

While writing back, Shira got a little too emotional, and she ended up writing, “I love you” in the end.

Next day, Shira came to office and started her computer. Like every other day she opened her communicator but  Shreya was not on-line yet.

So Shira decided to check her mails for a change. As she was scrolling down, she came across a mail, which looked quite different from other mails but when she focused more, she realized it was from the company HR. The content of that mail was either horrendous or hilarious that Shira couldn't decide which of the two was more appropriate.

In the mail, the HR had quoted the exact messages that Shira and Shreya exchanged via the Appreciation platform. And Shira was asked to speak with the unit HR.

“Oh my god!”

“Seriously!”

Shira burst into laughter. When she realized her laughter was disturbing the office protocol, she curbed her urge and called up Shreya.

Shreya said, ”What are you serious….hahaha”.

Shreya didn't receive any such mail and both of them were laughing incessantly.

Shira pinged her HR, so that she could speak with him as instructed in the mail.

“May I come in?”

“Yes, have a seat.”

“Thank you”.

“So what have you done now?”

“I...I just appreciated my friend and she appreciated back”.

The HR opened the mail and on reading it, he looked at Shira with a sarcastic expression on his face.

“Oh! Whom were you writing this to?”

“To a girl...Shreya”.

Shira specifically mentioned the gender; soon she realized it was more of a problem. But no matter how much she tried explaining, it wouldn't have mattered any more.

Shira didn't realize that Shreya had also replied over it. The HR read that message aloud. It was a cheesy line from a movie.

She wondered, “Which movie is it?”

The HR looked at her with a sarcastic smile and question in his eyes.

“No…Not me...I have not written that…Mine is the one just above it.”

The smile on the HR’s face widened further.

Then the HR started with the list of things that we should do, professionalism, office protocol etc. etc.

Finally, Shira came out of the office, took a deep sigh of relief and started laughing all over again……

Mumbai Beat!! #Life

It was 10 'o' clock in the night. Hot coffee on the table,and a long boring call with the client.
hmm..definitely doesn't sound like an appropriate Friday, but in many metropolitan cities of this world, this is how the usual day ends and so was Shreya's.
Shreya was new to the city and totally unfamiliar with the places. She had shifted to Mumbai a week ago,as her manager had proposed her name for the new project in Mumbai.
Struggling with the city's pathetic transport, inconsiderate people  and the new job. All of a sudden everything was too much to handle. And, icing on the cake, that it was 10 'o' clock and she was still in the office.
As she was trying to concentrate on her laptop screen, her phone buzzed with a message. She picked up the phone to check if it was important.

               "Hi? How have you been?"

Something she was not expecting at that point of the hour, when her work was hung up in between and she was in desperate mood to sleep.

She tried to avoid the message, but her phone buzzed again.

           "You came to Mumbai and didn't tell me? Not FAIR!"

"Oh god! yes things are not fair, I am working since 9 in the morning dude. Totally exhausted, want to eat, sleep, but no....", Shreya wanted to reply, but out of courtesy she didn't.

She texted, "Busy!!"

"Heartbreak."

"Back off dude!"

"Okay, on a serious note, are you in office? Working?"

"Yes."

"Great! My office is nearby, I will pick you up and we go for dinner."

"Excuse me."

"Excused! come soon am waiting."

"No."

"You have ten minutes."

"See I have got a lot of work, Sorry."

"Work! Senorita its Friday, come fast"

Well by now, Shreya had almost lost touch with her work, and with the reference of food, she had started feeling the hunger pangs.

"Ok."

It was quite difficult for Shreya to spot him in the first instance, but oh yes those spikes, how can anyone in this world ever forget!

"But today, he looked different, something have changed, something nice. Crap! he looks hot.
Well, Mumbai has its own effect on people."

Shreya jumped on the back seat of his bike. As soon as the bike started, she could feel the breeze on her face, the breeze that brought relief from the pain inside that cubicle. Less traffic and less heat. She closed her eyes and felt immense peace.

"What would you like to have?"

"Hello madame, what would you like to have?"

Shreya came back from her dream sequence and responded, "Anything, actually. Anything will do. Something light for the night".

He smiled and stopped his bike.

"Why are we stopping?"

"Look around, see for yourself. You told me once that you wanted to come here".

Shreya looked around and got totally smitten by the view. She smiled and said, "You remembered!"

                                                           

Ps: A friend in a new city is like an oasis in the desert. 

Last Goodbye....

Excerpt from one of  my stories..................

It was a long night. She was standing at her window, lost in her deep thoughts, tried to remember everything. As it was very important for her to consider each and every fine detail. It was neither a simple decision nor a logical one. She was thinking and analysing the best she could. Maybe, she has figured it out, now, everything would be depend on him.
She called him at the church, for where they met the first. While Sitting on the bench,facing the sea,she wondered, how it would be,and moments later she heard a 'Hi'.
She looked back and there he was. Her eyes filled with hope. She expressed each and every feeling she ever had, and how she wanted it to be. The more she speaks , the calmer she gets. She could feel the difference inside her, with the utterance of each and every word.
She cleared out everything but still her heart was full of fear. "will he respond the same way", she asked herself.
That is the only question she had in mind.

"when we express our deepest desire, we expect, we expect a response that lowers the pain"

He was looking down at his phone, and said, "it's okay,lets forget this and move on".

It broke her heart. It was nothing like she had expected, she had expected  more,so much more, that anything less than that would not mend anything.
She looked down, took a deep sigh and smiled, to show things are fine.
The more normal he behaved, more heart-breaking it was. She was staring at his face, waiting for him to realise that it had hurt her,but he didn't seem to sense any of it.She got up and  walked out, with a grief in her heart that she would never look back,again.

Are we just lucky enough!!

Today, I conducted an unusual experiment with myself and I would sincerely recommend it to you.

I just tried to know my worth. Yes! My worth! How much value am I adding to the market and how much does this market value me!

I earn 27 k in hand and am working for 200 hours in a month approx. (this is just according to the office hours) excluding travelling and getting ready for the office.

And I calculated that I am earning 135/hour.

This is my market worth or according to my employer, what I deserve.

But the question is, who will decide your worth???

Is it your employer? Or u?

We are like those daily wage laborers who are earning the same amount while sitting in an air conditioned room. We can say, we are just lucky enough!

After studying for 3-4 years and working for 2+ years, this is what your net worth is!

And why should we just talk about your graduation days, Aren’t we studying till we turned 18??

Add 14 years of schooling + 4 years of graduation+ 2 years of experience=135 /hour

Shocking! Isn’t it?

How a human being is made to believe that he is earning too much and should be satisfied.

I recall the story of an elephant here, who was tied to the ground with a rope. Someone asked the keeper, how can you keep an elephant tied to a rope.

The keeper smiled and replied, “The strength is not in the rope but in the mind, since his  childhood, we have tied him with a rope. When he was child he couldn’t break free, so he understood and got satisfied with not trying again. He grew up with the same set of mind, and he still thinks he cannot break free”.

It depends totally on us, to take care of our worth. People who assume that they are capable of doing less, will always deserve less.

Think about it? 

Waiting

In the book, persuasion by jane austen, the two people met and fell in love. Soon, they were separated, to meet once again.

Sometimes, the time is not right for the two people to come together or for things to happen. Even though everything feels correct, still things don’t work out.

In such scenarios, a person usually tries to wait for the person or for the opportunity, they feel are worth waiting for.

Isn't it beautiful when people wait for someone or something, they give away a portion of their life, doing nothing, just waiting. Checking again and again, if they have arrived, and every time they have not, feel the disappointment, but still hoping and keeping faith.

Sometimes, this wait is momentary and sometimes, it consumes years of your life.

A reply from a friend on WhatsApp. Checking the ‘last seen at’ again and again. All of us have gone through that one feeling where the person last seen is updated but the reply is still awaited. There is a sudden rush-of-thoughts in your mind. Few people doesn't bother much and some thoughts go in a different direction. And the very next moment when the reply arrives, it brings a smile to your face. This is called waiting.

Waiting for somebody can be restless and annoying. But we still wait, we still want to wait, why?

Maybe because we want to be with the person, no matter for how long, the mere sight of that person or reply from that person makes us forget the bitterness of waiting.

But I truly believe and have confidence that one day the wait will be answered because waiting is a journey where everybody embarks alone. As every journey has an end, so this journey also ends with the light.

What is more interesting is that sometimes this answer brings and revives your hope and your faith and sometimes it will be just be an answer. 

Whatever it is , it teaches you a wonderful lesson of patience. It teaches us that we should never rush into things, because slow and steady you will win the race.

When the wait gets over, either you are left with that one person with whom you want to be or with a smile that even if it didn't happen, you are still content and satisfied that you have done everything you could.

Trust me, the patience will bring you peace, you will not remain a wanderer, with no directions. You will definitely reach the end of the tunnel, and see the light.

So, wait as long as you can, to see how the story ends….but wait for something or somebody, only when you have done all you could do in your capacity!!!

Lead without Title!!!

While sipping my machine coffee with my ‘Tiger crunch’, my friend pinged me on my office communicator, she was very disturbed. She questioned me something that is not very relevant to the majority of the population. To some it might not even look like an issue.

Let me ask you one question:

Do you feel, at times that your ideology is totally different from the people around you????

Do you feel that your interest area is nobody’s concern?

If the answer is yes, then, Congratulations!!!!! Definitely you come into the Minority.

As the saying goes:

“A best times are always found when Friends and Family gather round”

What if, these best times turns out to be a frustrating conversation where people failed to understand.

Though people still talk to you, a feeling of social outcast prevails, somewhere, in your mind. There are few people with whom you can share your ideology.

But then who cares!

Anyways, she felt that her too much zeal for life, for her career and for herself, irritates people and sometimes depress them or make them laugh.

I would rather say. “Welcome to the club!!”

Well! First of all accept it, that we are different from the crowd, we have a never ending zeal and we truly believe that one day we will make it big.

A huge round of applause for us!!!!!

Then,garner the courage to stand apart.

It’s not easy, it will never come easy. People will laugh, mock about you and even ignore you. 

Only 5% of population in this world have made it to the top and they all were once outcast by the people around them

Optimism and enthusiasm fills us with ideas and solutions towards every problem in our life, it gives us the perspective to see the problem from a different dimension.

One more thing that makes us different, is that we are gifted. At times this works against us, we start talking without realizing that the other person is not interested.

Observe people around you, observe who cares and wants to listen to you.

Don’t give suggestions or advice to every other person. Even though they make mistakes let them do.

Well, this could be just one aspect of being outcast.

There could be many more reasons that make you feel outcast.

For such reasons, only one perspective, listen to your inner-self, be more accepting towards what people think of you and keep working towards your goal.

Soon, you will become a part of the 5% population.

Then, it’s your turn…….Laugh!!

Destiny

Recently, I saw a very interesting movie where a girl and guy drift away from each other, in order to test their love. Initially I found it very absurd and illogical.Their idea was to check, whether they were meant to be or not.

Somewhere, somehow we all do this to ourselves in our daily life, where we assume that certain things didn’t happen to us because of our very own destiny.

If it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be.

We all tend to get derelict towards our life and fail to notice that every day is a new day. Every day gives us the opportunity to mend things, to make things right.

But, we tend to ignore these little gifts that we get every day.

Anyways, the very next day, the aunt of that girl introduced her to a guy who turns out to be the same person.

Destiny!!!!Sure???

Is destiny about waiting for the right person, right moment, right opportunity???

what else can we do…..?

No, destiny never expects you to sit and watch. It expects you to carry an indefatigable attitude towards life.

It expects you to get up and show up every time and see how the story ends.

Destiny is to build the bridge between you and your dreams.

And for that you have to have the wherewithal to achieve anything you want in life….so just stop waiting and get set go!

PS: If that day both of them wouldn’t have shown up at the restaurant, they wouldn’t have been together.

                                        

A very hilarious incident happened yesterday, coming out of the wash-room.

I happen to see a colleague.Well! A ‘colleague’ here means, a person whom I have met once and I am familiar with the face.

As a normal greeting, I greeted him saying ‘Hi!’, and he returned a‘Hello!’

I generally do this, because this is the least you can do when it comes to greeting somebody. That too when you are walking and not thinking of stopping by and asking any further questions.

But, he didn't stop there and ask, “How are you?” By the time I turned to reply, “I am fine”, he has already moved on in his direction.

It was an awkward and  hilarious situation.

We all will admit that most of us  have come across such people in our daily life.

But, my query is, what are we supposed to do in this situation?

Should, we just walk on too without replying because he/she is not anyways interested? Or

Should, we reply irrespective of anything?

 I guess we need some solutions here:

1.  Don’t say ‘Hi’ in your response. Straight away ask, ‘how are you’? This will automatically put the ball in their court. Now the’I-am-fine’ headache is their.

2.Just smile, this is the fastest response you can give at that particular time.

3.Just don’t reply. Isn't it common sense? I am alive, which means I am fine.

4.Just stop, ask them to stop, and make them hear a ‘I am Fine’, so that next time, they don’t dare ask you such a silly thing.

These are my suggestions to people suffering from the“I am not given enough time to say I am fine” syndrome.

Please pour in your suggestions or at least send this to those who do this to you!!!

Wo Meri Hero Hai...........

Zindagi ka sbse bada paath padaya,

Dard mei bh jisne jeevan dena seekhaya,

Wo meri HERO hai!

Kabhi daant k, toh kabhi sazaa,

Neend mei bh ched k muj leti hai wo mazaa,

Wo meri HERO hai!

Gir k bh jisne khade hone ka sahaas dilaya,

Paane k liye kuch khona padta hai....yh usne karke dikhaya,

Wo meri HERO hai!

Achi aadtei aur vichar hi jisne bas jataya,

Mushkil dino mei bh khud ko ekagar rakhna usne seekhaya,

Wo meri HERO hai!

Anginat balidaano k baad muj is kabil banaya,

Mere kal ko mujse bh pehle aur zyada savara,

Wo meri HERO hai!

Aj bh dhoop mei chaho banke khadi rehti hai,

Baarish mei chaata aur toofan mei deewar ban jati hai,

Wo meri HERO hai!

Khud ki pragati ko thehraya,

Mujko pragati ki taraf badaya,

Kar sakti hai srf MAA hi yh,

Yh tak usne nahi jataya,

Wo meri HERO hai!

Khoob shikayat karti thi mei,

Mujko lunch mei phrse yh kuch hara-bhara kyu  banaya,

Dkho chimpo ki mummy ko,

Kitna tasty khana banaya,

Hass ki meri baato pe..

Phrse usne wahi hara-bhara kuch banaya,

Wo meri HERO hai!

Mera exam uska bh exam ban jata tha,

Har sawaal ka jawaab dhundhna usko ata tha,

Wo meri HERO hai!

Mehant hi karam hai mera,

Krishan hi dharam hai mera,

Mujko khud se milaya,

Wo meri HERO hai!

Ek naari hone ka gaurav samajaya,

Swabhimani banna jisne seekhaya,

Wo meri HERO hai!

No amount of words and expressions can express my gratitude and my love to you.....................Ma!

I love you....because you are my hero!!

What Success Means To You????

                                                                   

We all want to be successful in this world.But,Trust me, success holds different meaning for different people. For some success means getting into the desired college or to get a highest package, for some it is to get married, for some it is just living the moment and many more.
Sometimes, we underestimate the power of the definition of success and ends up following somebody else success philosophy.
My personal experience, where my parents thought that getting into IIT is success and they still do, and this time for my little brother. I wonder, whether the little one's definition matches theirs.But somehow he will try, maybe for the sake of the so called definition that our society follows or rather for himself.It would be better if its the latter one.
Success??????
For the first time in my life, I tried thinking about it and  could jot down few...

#Success for me is being a good daughter to the two wonderful people in the world and to make them feel the same for yourself.
#Success is giving much better life to your parents than what you parents gave to you.
#Success is to do things the way you want, whenever you want.
#Success is to be your own boss.
#Success is getting an hour to read everyday and broaden the horizon.
#Success is getting wiser everyday.
# Success is to be invincible in this competitive world and fulfil the purpose of life.
#Success is to make a difference in society and capable enough to bring joy to someone's life.
#Success is to be fearless everytime you ask a question.
#Success is to find true love and to keep believing in it, even though people say it doesn't exist.
#Success is to get the best in life, even it cost you a fortune.
#Success is feeling optimistic even though everything is out of place.

Success is something that we achieve everyday.
These are my few ideas when it comes to success. I hope YOU understood,what I really wanted to convey.
If you feel that you are ignorant and still don't realise what success means to you. Then do just the way I did, jot down everything on a piece of paper, WHAT SUCCESS MEANS TO YOU??
This is a very healthy exercise, and I am sure , many of you will be benefited!!
Do share your experience in the comments....I am eagerly waiting!!!!

I DON'T LIKE....

                                                                          

Sometimes people are unable to understand the dilemma of life. Exactly, bole toh, what's happening to them..
It's time,we all need to do some soul searching.
Now what exactly is soul searching?
It is about being 100% honest with yourself. As we all know, that we have a conscious and sub-conscious level in our mind. Conscious level is from where we think what is right and what is wrong.It is governed by rules, rules made by society, family or can be your own(out of experience). Sometimes we follow these rules and sometimes we don't. 
Subconscious level is the inner layer, of which people generally don't feel any need or pay any heed. That is the level, where your reality lies. The purpose of life is not just to determine right and wrong. 
There is no right and no wrong. It is what suits you becomes your right and wrong.
So, to dwell into your subconscious mind and to identify what exactly you want out of your life and what you want to make of it, is the quest we all embark on. Or, we can say the very purpose of life!!
A very frequent question that people ask me:

"Beta gyaan toh de diya , yeh bh toh bta kaise"

Well, Its very simple. All you need to do, is to hit and try. Now, that doesn't sound easy. Definitely not, but its fun, and the fun element makes it easy.

Do something new everyday or try something new everyday(everyday sounds difficult again...make it alternative days or weekly).This will keep your mind active, and on the right track of your quest.It will inspire you everyday and satisfy you. You may not know what you like, but you will definitely know,what you dislike. This is the very first step, of Soul Searching.

A very recent experience where I was unable to fit into my jeans, and when I managed to, I seriously disliked the shape of my jeans. So, instead of buying new one(as bankruptcy is the in-thing now days), I decided to hit the gym for instant results. My very close friend 'S' warned me....some zillion times...I was like let me try. I tried for 3 days, and after 3 days I got to know what I don't like!!

And went back to my previous love, nature/park/jogging/walking!! Sometimes, to know what you like , you need to know what you don't like...So come out of your comfort zone and play with your dislikes!

Again....

"Free advice hai ....lena hai toh lelo warna chod do"

I day dream everyday....

                                                               

                                                     
Always picture your life the way you want it to be, it will revive you and your life towards hope!! 
Not many people get to live the life they want it to be, and sometimes feel bad. Day dreaming is an art where you find peace and solace in the darkest hour of your life.
In case, you haven't tried this before, trust me , it will help!!

"Free advice hai ..lena hai toh lelo..warna chod dho"

                                                                                                                                      

Power to choose

Lately, I had a very enlightening conversation with my manager.

Manager: okay, I will see what can I do for your project, but, if you remember you went to
                 H.R regarding your issues last time.

Me: Yes, I had doubts, so I asked her few questions.

Manager: See, you can go to your managers, or you can come to me, but going to H.R!!
                Many people will not like it!!

I was amazed at the audacity of that man, who had very tactfully enlightened me that it was my biggest mistake to go to H.R, and, in future, if I do so, I should better be aware of the consequences.

That very moment, I felt, the double standards and moreover I felt my helplessness.

What one can do!!!

I am sure all of us have been there. That one defining moment where one had 2 choices: either accept the way it is or fight back!!!Some of these choices you are very proud of and some of it go in vain.

One of the very proud choices that I made was joining Shiamak  Davar dancing classes which has definitely fetch me a lot of appreciation! But, Nothing comes easy, neither this one.

As, I was going through Delhi times, I came across this enrollment ad from Shiamak Davar, I asked my parents. To my surprise, they agreed in one go, though, they have always felt that such things are waste of time and money.

My first class was amazing so was my entire batch. From instructor to students, it was like all together a different world. A world that taught me so much, that moulded my personality. Of all the things that I learned, one was:

                        “Invest in learning; it will add youth to your life”

The night my performance ended, I could feel the void; there will be no more classes ,no more fun, and no more learning. My parents straight away said ‘NO’ for another batch and denied any financial help. But, the desire to perform again, in front of huge audience, drove me insanely towards it.

                        ‘Believe in your dreams, there is always a way’

I shared my grief with my friend, and he told me to work with Shiamak as PR to fund my fees. But it was in Gurgaon, I have to take 10 minute bus ride till AIIMS metro station and then 40 minute metro ride till Huda city centre and then 15 minutes’ walk towards the center.

“I'll do it”. Those were my words, I never knew, where it came from.

“Take that one step and god will make everything fall in the right place”

But the battle had never been easy, now that I have deduced the way, how would I convince my parents who were pursuing me to join MBA coaching classes! Funny life!!

They instantly said ‘NO’, the way I said ‘NO’ for MBA. I begged and begged and did all the drama I could. And, then I delivered the million dollar dialogue, “I want to stand on my own feet, let me experience the hardship of the outside world”. Trust me it will work every time.

‘Pursue till you die; Nobody can take away the power of persuasion from you’

I struggled to travel from south Delhi to Gurgaon, I was exhausted. But, I managed to complete the 15 day tenure and got myself enrolled. There was this little secret that I didn't disclose to my parents, that I wanted to be a part of the professional group of Shiamak- ‘THE SPB’.

After this show, I was selected by ‘Marzi Pestonji’ for the auditions of SPB,after getting rejected twice.

My parents didn't approve again!!!They clearly blacklisted the option of dancing for me. I told them this is just an audition and nothing else, I will forget about dance after this (In my funny little head, I said “Kidding”). Thinking that this will end my madness, they approved again.

Luckily, I got selected, and another round of persuasion started. This time my parents were serious, they didn't let me join. They discouraged and scolded me every time I talked about it. I didn't join that one batch, that meant a whole world to me at that time. But, you know what, I had HOPE!!!!

“Don’t lose hope is the moral of the Story”

So, When the next batch started, the summer funk, I knew this was my last chance, either I will do SPB or will lose it forever. I pursued my parents again, this time, ‘I am at your mercy’ blackmail; I told them this is actually going to be the last (As I was moving out of the city for job). Again, to my surprise, they gave up, don’t know for what reasons. I lived my dream and the life that I always dreamt.

A dancer last for maximum 3 minutes on stage, and it took 3 months to prepare that piece. That is the beauty of dance.

Remember, in the end, that we choose every day! Every day gives us an opportunity to make things right.

I made my choice, the choice which was not realistic, with the educational background I had. In that, I made my way. Today I realized maybe it was not for the dance, not for the SPB,….but sometimes it is for the journey.

A journey of self-discovery……………………and that was my CHOICE!!!

                                                           

Let It GO………

                             

Lately, in a conversation with a friend, I came to know about his state, that we all have experienced in our life. This is the state where we are stuck in our memories, where we still live in, and expect people to come back.

Technically, that feeling is a recorded version of what we have felt when we were with them or when we were in that situation. We long for that feeling again, and when we are unable to achieve it, we mourn!!

So, what exactly that state is?

We think about them over and over again, it brings a smile to your face and the very next moment you realise that you are no more there. That is called the Hung-up zone.

Hung-up zone is the zone where our subconscious mind still expects people to come back to us, when actually, they have already moved on.

So, what do we do now??? Move on!!

 Sounded easy…….yes, it’s easy to say, but there are ways to make it easy as well.

All we need to do is to paint new and better memories, following will help you do it:

1)      Jab we met

Yes, that movie taught something very stupid yet interesting fact about human nature.

It taught us, that you can’t keep holding to that person or to their blah things; because there is more to life.

It’s true that whenever you throw away or burn the things, that the person has gifted you at one point of time, gives you immense peace and an understanding that you have the courage to part your ways.

Once you stop seeing those things around you, you have won half of the battle, as we know, “Out of sight, out of mind”.

2)      Stop visiting their profile

We all are desperate to have their one glimpse, to know what’s up with them. Social networking sites has definitely given us the privilege to get a sneak-peak in their life.

So, just stop looking around, either you control your instincts or ‘unfriend’/block that person, so that, their memories never haunts you again!!!

3)      Write….

Yes, it helps. Maintain a diary where you pen down all the positive things that happened to you in that day. No matter how small that one particular act was, it actually brought positivity in your life.

If it gets hard to pen- down anything, then, try again.

Keep thinking, and searching for that one moment where you smiled because of no reason.

We all have that one magical moment daily where we are given an opportunity to make things better.

In no time, that one moment turns into splendid moments. So, identify that one moment, and jot it down in your diary.

4)      Busy….Busy….Busy

No……..No, don’t exhaust yourself. Don’t get consumed under the burden of work. When it comes to keeping yourself busy, it means doing things that you have not done before.

Trust me, there is no fun, staying in your comfort zone!

Challenge yourself with things that you have never done before.

Whether it is, asking out somebody for a coffee? Public Speaking? Para-sailing or dance classes? Road trip?

There are millions of things that a person hasn't experienced in their short span of life.

Take this as an opportunity, to explore you potential to the fullest.

5)      Meet new People……

The relationship or the tough times has taken away the trust, you once had over life.

People distance themselves, guarding oneself from another mishap.

I wonder at times whether it ever did GOOD!!

According to me, safe-guarding yourself is a never a bad option. We all need some time to come out of it. It is called the transition.

But, transition has its own stipulated time. Don’t hold on to it.

Meet new people; ask about their passion and their achievements.

Well, One can do some healthy flirting too (till somebody is taking it in right spirit).

As,Ranbir Kapoor says, “It’s good for your health, just like yoga”

6)      Take a step back

After years of waiting or say months or days, where you are actually near the closure, that person comes back and asks for another chance.

Are you confused?? What to do now???

Well, the answer is very simple, the person who left you in your darkest hour, doesn't deserve to be with the new and better version of you.

I know it’s confusing and irritating.

But, then just believe in yourself, and think that you are the most beautiful/handsome person in this world, who deserves way too better.

Take the last sigh of that feeling and put yourself together to make it happen. Things will start showing in your favour only when you will take a step ahead and make it happen. Below are excerpts from a beautiful song, ‘I should go’ which inspires all of us to move ahead in life and never look back.

Before my will gets any weaker
And my eyes begin to linger
Longer than they should
I should go
Before I lose my sense of reason
And this hour holds more meaning
Than it ever could
I should go
I should go

What’s gone is gone forever; don’t make it your destiny but a closed chapter that taught you something about life.

“It’s not until we have lost someone, that we are able to enjoy the feeling of finding somebody better and worthy, again.”

                                                

 Maintaining the thin line in relationships!!!!!

Not many of us are blessed with those good friends from the opposite gender, with whom we share our joys and our sorrows. But, if to read between the lines, maybe these people are not that blessed.

A general friend or a normal friend, as we categorise, will never be a threat to you unless their conscience is clear.

But what about that ‘One’ friend that you think is just your friend but turns out to be your biggest admirer or say wants to be your more than friend.

Does it more often happens with you that your ‘Friends’ proposes  you, when you were having a time of your life, where you don’t want relationships or you were interested in someone else!!!

If so, then you need to follow the steps below to avoid this sort of situation in future:

1)      Never Hangout with them ……..unless in a group

Not in your wildest of imagination you would have ever imagined that the person walking beside you is contemplating to further isolate you from your friends circle in order to spend more time with you.

Beware!!

If they say let’s hangout together, once or twice is fine, but if somehow you see the dislike on their face whenever you talk about that group or ask's you to have that “one-one” relationship, then it’s your  run away moment.

It’s better to hang out with them in group which will suppress their feelings which might grow with time.

2)      Avoid those Phone calls………………..

If they are calling you more often or every day or sometimes twice-thrice in a day, it’s time to draw a line.

You have to stop giving them this much confidence that you are available every time they call.

Receiving their call every time will only give them the over-confidence where they want to claim that they know everything about you.

Even calling every day is sign of an obsession and uncontrollable urge …...you have surely become an obsession for that person.

3)      Beware of that special Attention!!!

It’s not like that we don’t like to get pampered (Attention) but it should be from right people and at the right moment. An attention from someone you like is always welcome.

But it’s damn irritating when it comes from that one person.

That one person will start giving you more time and that ‘Out of the Box’ attention which you really don’t want.

So stop accepting those special invites or just distance yourself enough from that person so that they realise you don’t care.

It’s a give and take relationship; they will give you ample attention and will expect the same which will irritate you more.

4)      The one who’s committed…..

Don’t be surprised if your friends who are already committed starts liking you or hitting on you, as if some shameless creep.

But, somehow, such people are just distracted with your demeanour, who just wants to look for a distraction when their relationship gets choking enough for them. It’s good to give a shoulder when they are crying but never let them reach beyond your shoulder.

They find solitude in you and it becomes awkward for you.  Most of the times nobody realises the growing affection and people tend to get hurt in their own assumptions.

Somewhere it’s very much your responsibility to detest this approach and give a light jolt to the person, making them realise that you are not involved in this selfish act.

Either talk it out or give an indirect impression of what you feel.

5)      Already Drenched in the Pain…..

In case you are already in the situation where the awkwardness has already crept into your friendship, then, it is not possible to go back to the same old Friendship you once had.

What all is left, is undeniable truth that will not let you stay the way you are.

What so ever they do, you will only perceive it on the similar lines.
So, it’s better to cut-off for some time to make things normal again.

Sometimes, this cut-off is far too stretched where people lose touch forever, but, then it’s better than the good.

Crushes, liking, affection…..you name it and you will find it. It’s always nice to have that one-true-love that we all look forward to.

But, there are moments, when all you want to say is ‘No’. So, I have given you some best solutions. Please share what you have done, in the same situation.

Waiting to hear it from you!!!

By the end, I want to conclude it with a wonderful message from a very close friend of mine,

“If it’s meant to be it will happen, no matter how hard you try to maintain that friendship or relationship”.

So, don’t worry, on losing a friend or a Best Friend, there are two things that you need to keep in mind: you really don’t have to feel sorry for all the confusion and misery, because it was not your fault and secondly, it’s your friend who is getting benefited from all this, so cheer up!!