Let It GO………

                             

Lately, in a conversation with a friend, I came to know about his state, that we all have experienced in our life. This is the state where we are stuck in our memories, where we still live in, and expect people to come back.

Technically, that feeling is a recorded version of what we have felt when we were with them or when we were in that situation. We long for that feeling again, and when we are unable to achieve it, we mourn!!

So, what exactly that state is?

We think about them over and over again, it brings a smile to your face and the very next moment you realise that you are no more there. That is called the Hung-up zone.

Hung-up zone is the zone where our subconscious mind still expects people to come back to us, when actually, they have already moved on.

So, what do we do now??? Move on!!

 Sounded easy…….yes, it’s easy to say, but there are ways to make it easy as well.

All we need to do is to paint new and better memories, following will help you do it:

1)      Jab we met

Yes, that movie taught something very stupid yet interesting fact about human nature.

It taught us, that you can’t keep holding to that person or to their blah things; because there is more to life.

It’s true that whenever you throw away or burn the things, that the person has gifted you at one point of time, gives you immense peace and an understanding that you have the courage to part your ways.

Once you stop seeing those things around you, you have won half of the battle, as we know, “Out of sight, out of mind”.

2)      Stop visiting their profile

We all are desperate to have their one glimpse, to know what’s up with them. Social networking sites has definitely given us the privilege to get a sneak-peak in their life.

So, just stop looking around, either you control your instincts or ‘unfriend’/block that person, so that, their memories never haunts you again!!!

3)      Write….

Yes, it helps. Maintain a diary where you pen down all the positive things that happened to you in that day. No matter how small that one particular act was, it actually brought positivity in your life.

If it gets hard to pen- down anything, then, try again.

Keep thinking, and searching for that one moment where you smiled because of no reason.

We all have that one magical moment daily where we are given an opportunity to make things better.

In no time, that one moment turns into splendid moments. So, identify that one moment, and jot it down in your diary.

4)      Busy….Busy….Busy

No……..No, don’t exhaust yourself. Don’t get consumed under the burden of work. When it comes to keeping yourself busy, it means doing things that you have not done before.

Trust me, there is no fun, staying in your comfort zone!

Challenge yourself with things that you have never done before.

Whether it is, asking out somebody for a coffee? Public Speaking? Para-sailing or dance classes? Road trip?

There are millions of things that a person hasn't experienced in their short span of life.

Take this as an opportunity, to explore you potential to the fullest.

5)      Meet new People……

The relationship or the tough times has taken away the trust, you once had over life.

People distance themselves, guarding oneself from another mishap.

I wonder at times whether it ever did GOOD!!

According to me, safe-guarding yourself is a never a bad option. We all need some time to come out of it. It is called the transition.

But, transition has its own stipulated time. Don’t hold on to it.

Meet new people; ask about their passion and their achievements.

Well, One can do some healthy flirting too (till somebody is taking it in right spirit).

As,Ranbir Kapoor says, “It’s good for your health, just like yoga”

6)      Take a step back

After years of waiting or say months or days, where you are actually near the closure, that person comes back and asks for another chance.

Are you confused?? What to do now???

Well, the answer is very simple, the person who left you in your darkest hour, doesn't deserve to be with the new and better version of you.

I know it’s confusing and irritating.

But, then just believe in yourself, and think that you are the most beautiful/handsome person in this world, who deserves way too better.

Take the last sigh of that feeling and put yourself together to make it happen. Things will start showing in your favour only when you will take a step ahead and make it happen. Below are excerpts from a beautiful song, ‘I should go’ which inspires all of us to move ahead in life and never look back.

Before my will gets any weaker
And my eyes begin to linger
Longer than they should
I should go
Before I lose my sense of reason
And this hour holds more meaning
Than it ever could
I should go
I should go

What’s gone is gone forever; don’t make it your destiny but a closed chapter that taught you something about life.

“It’s not until we have lost someone, that we are able to enjoy the feeling of finding somebody better and worthy, again.”